Communication Basics: What We Have Here is a Failure to Communicate about Rest

As a track coach, I have always understood the difference between walking and renewing.  The problem is that many people regard walking as a form of rest.  It is NOT!  Not only that, but it is the least restful of the paces available to a person trying to reach a destination in a particular time frame.

Let me illustrate this from track.  In track, there are four paces:

rest
sprint
run
walk.

These are the variable speeds available based on a person's lung, spirit, breath, or wind capacity.  Every public school track coach knows these are different.  I hope everyone can agree on these.  My coaches never failed in communicating this clearly.  Walking was unacceptable for the mile run, for one example!

Let me also illustrate from the Bible, In Isaiah, there are four paces:

renew
fly
run
walk.

These are the variable speeds available for those who bind themselves to the LORD (Yahweh). Every private school should teach these paces to all their students.  I hope all Christians (and Jews) can agree on these.  When a situation calls for a sprint, I hope no Christian (and Jew), thinks a run or trotting pace will do!

This is all pretty straightforward, but there is still a problem.  The problem is that people think walking is restful like renewals or rest itself is.  That is a major mistake.

Let me explain what I mean.  Moving from renew and rest pace to walk pace, each pace is increasingly more restless.  So here is how I rank each pace in terms of its level of rest:

renew/rest - most restful
sprint - more restful
run - less restful
walk - least restful.

To understand this, you need to recall something that goes beyond track athletes.  You have to think in terms of location and time.  In everyday life, people have a destination and a time for arrival.  In track, you have for a destination of at least three places, the fenced in area around the track, the starting line, and the finish line.

Think of young family members here.  Children don't get too restless about shorter distances or shorter time frames.  They get restless about longer distances and longer time frames.  Don't you recall this question on the way to Grandma's house: "Are we there yet?"  This grows out their increasing restlessness on every stop along the way.  They won't rest till they get to Grandma's house unless you can entertain them, like my parents when I was growing up and help the children lose track of time.  Everyone should get this.

In track, it is the same way, except now you are no longer dealing with the youngest family members, but with young people who are now functioning out of their first stages of being an adult.  Still the lesson does not change - the slower the pace, the greater the restlessness.

The first pace is that of rest.  Once at the track and settled on a location, a good track coach instructs all competitors to take it easy and to rest.  He or she then tells each individual to listen for the 1st through 3rd calls for their races.  These 3 calls are each fore-warnings to report to the area of competition and to break off from resting with the team is at place where they are resting.  Rest, though, is the first state or pace that track athletes need to master.  During full rest there is no distance or time between start and finish.  You rest where and when you are resting with your teammates. They may not move an inch and settle in under a second. Their starting and finishing line overlap one another.  Rest is living in the here and now fully.

The second pace is that of the sprinters.  They are generally those who run races that can be finished in a minute or less. This varies, of course, according to conditioning.  Also the separation between starting and finishing lines are 50 meters (I'm not sure what has replaced the 60 yard run from an earlier era?), 100 meters, 200 meters and 400 meters.  These locations are relatively close to each other and like I said before can be sprinted in under a minute.  With that short distance between lines and the short time to run, the sprinter's restlessness until they have reached the finish line is relatively short.  Be smart here.  You must separate fear or nerves due to a lack of confidence from restlessness.  Once the runner eclipses the finish line, they have put that race to rest.  The sprinter flys a short distance for a short time to reach the here and now of the finish line.

The third pace is that of the runners.  These races all take over a minute.  There is the 800 meters, 1600 meters, 3200 meters, and 4800 meters (3 mile) runs.  In these instances, the races vary from around 2 minutes long up to quarter of an hour.  The 3 mile race on the high school level is not part of a track meet like in college.  It is instead the distance for cross country racing.  Runners have to set a reasonable pace for their distance and they have to be more patient than a sprinter because they have to run for a longer time.   As an experienced runner and coach, I can tell you that one of the reasons sprinters don't want to e distance runners is because they don't like how long the race takes.  As a former distance runner, I can tell you that the length of the race is the roughest part.   You don't get to rest until you cross the finish line!  A runner runs for a little longer distance and time.  It can test how well you handle a long restless state.  For me, the two most restful moments were the start and the finish.  Let's end the wait.

Finally, the fourth pace is that of the walkers.  These races all take place at the college level and higher.  I happen to be at the UCLA Summer Olympic Festival in the early nineties where the American record for race walking was set by the gentleman I happened to visit with before his run.  I also had one of my former teammates from high school, Roger Kordus, go on and become a race walker in college.  That is my only direct connection to these races.  For me, this is where the tortoise and the hare story makes some sense.  It is "slower" than the sprint and run, but not "slow" and here "steady" is important.  The thing is that these races can become tedious and people can become restless and leave before the race is over!

The problem in our day is that people mistakenly associate restlessness mostly with sprinting rather than walking.  I think there is a failure to communicate and understand the restlessness of a sprinter in that case.  The restlessness is building due to a delay in a finish, and not due to a fast finish.  Also there is a restlessness created by a tension between one person who can do something fast and someone who is less fast.  Let's clarify things more at this point.  Here is how I see it:

renewing is not restless
sprinting is restless for a short time
running is restless for a little longer time
walking is restless for the longest time among the four.

In each instance, restlessness is there until the final destination and the end time are reached.  There is no tension, when you are already here.  There is the height of tension, when we are not there yet. Don't forget the elementary here - remember the kids!

I am at a place of rest in my life.  It is only when I walk out the the door and meet people who still haven't found what they are looking for that I run into restlessness!  Ah, the satisfaction of having already finished finding what I was previously looking for!  Ah, the satisfaction of having finished this post also.


Be healthy and live life to its fullest,

Jon

Communication Basics: A Test for Your Present Mental Health

The test on this occasion is a test of your mental health.  This test is a direct test of your "software programming" for the thinking in your mind that you learned in school, etc.  (It cannot test the physical health of your brain, though that can be a complicating factor).  This test will also test you not only on your logical intelligence, but also your emotional intelligence.

Do not be intimidated, if you fail to get 76% correct.  Before I wrote my book and constructed my diagrams, I failed this test too.  Test results only test your actual performance at that moment  They in no way test your potential to be healthy and how fast your scores will improve - which will in many cases be very fast!  I like to say that actual great mental health is not far away.

On any test occasion, it is important to outline the rules.  You cannot use my book.  This is a closed book test for those how have never opened my book, Mental Health for Everyone.  If you use the diagrams in the front of my book, then you will pass easily as mentally healthy.  That will skew your health scores in your favor. If you have already peered inside my book and there is no turning back, the test then will access what you actually learned.

Here then are the challenging questions:

Draw a four by four diagram of the most basic principles for teaching (seeing).  Note on the diagram the labels you would use for the columns and for the levels of the diagram, etc.  Make your best guesses if you are not sure.  Try to avoid leaving your diagram blank.








Draw a four by four diagram



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Communication Basics: What does it Mean to be Healthy versus Unhealthy?

We assume we know the meaning of healthy.  Some psychologists claim that there is no contrast between healthy and unhealthy, there is only a continuum.  In that case, I suppose a bad grade doesn't ever mean failure, but only a grade that is lower than someone else's grade.  The idea of having only a continuum sounds a bit suspicious.  In that case, you can be declared mentally healthy if you are better than schizophrenic.  I hope I grade better than that.  Just because I don't have multiple personalities shouldn't mean that I am healthy.  So what is it to meet the grade of being mentally healthy?  That is a great question we are going to explore and test.  

In October 2015, I finished a book titled, Mental Health for Everyone: For Making Good Choices.  In the title is a summary in seconds of what the book is all about.  All of the words are relatively clear though a person might not know the precision that the title has in it's choice of words.  It is my shortest statement of the point of the book.  

There is one word though that is not real clear as to definition.  It grabs attention, but alludes our grasp.  It is the word - healthy.  It is, according to a dictionary, to be in good health or to be not sick or injured.  How do we measure good health when it comes to the mind - the mental part of ourselves?

I think it is actually fairly clear to me now.  I think the grading system in the school hints at a pretty good way to score mental health.  You can fall into a continuum of healthy to a degree, but there is also a point where we say someone has passed a lowest measure or someone has failed to make that lowest grade.   

I think a person can have a passing grade of health while not being fully healthy.  Likewise one can have a failing grade of unhealthy even while they are not fully unhealthy. In school, I was lucky to make the passing grade a number of times, but that didn't mean I was necessarily as mentally healthy as my grades seemed to indicate.  

Here is the most dramatic example in my life.  While I was getting on the Dean's list in college, my mind was suffering not thriving.  I won't bore people with the details, but if the measure of being on the Dean's List means high intelligence or smarts, then why did it happen that at the very time I reached a pinnacle of smarts that my mind was traveling in the opposite direction at the same time? A smart mind should be a help towards health and not be a hindrance, right?    

Since Sept 2014, I have known what caused my mind to begin to fail the grade even while getting high grades.  I didn't have a way of thinking that fit my mind's natural way of thinking. Some of the way that I had been taught to think, didn't bring peace of mind, but anguish of mind. I was thinking in ways that were too heavy, too restless, too difficult, and too foggy to find peace of mind.  It was too hard.  Or sometimes too things to travel to the opposite extremes.  .   

Then when I sat down to write about mental health for 2 months in August and September of 2014, peace of mind for me came together in 4 diagrams that to this day give me more peace than I ever had previously. The peace of mind I have now matches more with being a cheerful five year old.

The central idea of being mentally healthy is that one has to reach a certain level and column on my 4 x 4 diagrams on page xvi to be healthy.  I call it the rule of 76%.  You have to get past just 3 x 3 (75%).  Likewise I think a passing grade in each level or column could also be the rule of 76%.  

There is one other aspect of my book that is very important.  Martin Luther King once said the first step was more important than being able to see the rest of the staircase, if my memory serves me right.  My book says that is not healthy.  What is healthy is taking that first step knowing at least in a shadowy view where the stairs take you in the end.  In this case the books says we start at square 1 as an interval and end at square 64.  

Now, not all of us are called to lead at or get to interval 64.  We can stop ourselves somewhere before that point.  But what is not optional is the need for respect for those who keep going on to higher and higher heights.  No respect for the higher intervals is not any more healthy than a bench presser not being respectful of another weight lifting who lifts more and with more repetitions.  

So that is my definition of healthy.  Hit 76% to pass as healthy.  75% or less would be unhealthy. Likewise someone who says necessary knowledge all ends at high school (or God forbid in kindergarten) is unhealthy.  Let's communicate clearly through numbers.  

We need real mental health in the United States.  We need to measure it accurately.  In my next entry, I will offer a test of mental health.  Thank you. 

To Your Better Mental Health,

Jon 

  

Communication Basics: Healthy Begins with Fast and Variable

I Have to Last and Not Just be Fast, I Have to Be Fast and Not Just Last

Whenever a person does an activity like writing a book, it is done in the context of time.  There is a first edition and there is a last edition.  From one to the other, improvements can be made, but the first edition remains the first except under one condition.  That condition is that a significant part of the fast first edition will last until the last edition.  Was the book written well enough to avoid a full restart at its core?  Will I need to retract what I said in any major way? 

I wrote the first edition of my book, Mental Health for Everyone, to get out my ideas fast and to make them last.  I felt the need to try to break the cycle of mental illness fast, especially for the sake of the suicidal; but also to make corrections to my work as it progressed to make sure its effect will last.  The finishing part is never completely done for a writer.  For example, I can always continue improving the book.  The only question is whether the start requires a full restart.  I don’t believe my book will require a re-start – that I was too jumpy and was guilty of a false start.  I waited for the gun and I am off and running already with no plans to finish until the race is over!

I don’t need to restart what I did, but that doesn’t mean I can’t add to what it says to explain aspects of the book in a still better way.  My principle in the area of schooling and relationship of “fast and variable” will last.  I will not retract that piece, but I can still further amplify what I mean.  I’m a track athlete and track coach so my analogy from track is routine to me.  Even the complex parts are relatively simple to me. The first edition of has to balance amplify with simplify, but only in the future it can be good to still further amplify it as well.

 

Let’s amplify what I say in my book.  So what do I mean when I suggest that the key to schooling is being fast?  Doesn’t that fly into the face of common sense which according to Aesop’s Fable says that “Slow and steady wins the race”.  Also doesn’t that disagree with psychology’s insights about manic-depression or hyper-activity?  I can clearly answer for myself that it does not fly in the face of common sense or the basic insight of psychology on manic-depression.  Let me assure you though what I mean by adding to what I have said before. 

In my book, Mental Health for Everyone, I emphasize four principles for guiding mental health in the areas of education, schooling, coaching, and teaching.  They are:

         1)   Biggest 
         2)  Fastest  
         3) Strongest 
         4)  Smartest

It is not just the biggest that wins, it is not just the fastest that wins, it is not just the strongest that wins, and not just the smartest that wins.  It requires all four in some winning combination.  All of this may sound a bit controversial.  I can’t amplify on that here in this short space or amplify on every principle individually here, but let me assure you that I am aware of the movement from big (small) to biggest, fast to fastest, strong to strongest, and smart to smartest. 

I am not a proponent of the too big to fail, etc. thinking.  I am a proponent of a healthy movement from all of the least starting points to all of the greatest ending points.  For example, biggest is a virtue, and it is not a harm in the proper understanding.  In the size of this blog entry, I am going to only amplify more what I have said before on fast to fastest, but I can make it even bigger elsewhere or when I am given more time than the average blog reader will give me. 

There are five themes I want to emphasize.  To each I will devote one paragraph.  They are:

1) Fast to Last

2) Fast to Fastest

3) Variable before steady

4) Unhealthy states

5) Healthy states

First, let’s discuss fast to last.  Here is a key thing.  The carpenter’s rule says, “Measure twice, cut once”.  Why don’t they say measure once?  Isn’t that faster?  Doesn’t twice mean we waste time?  Doesn’t that mean there is no end to double-checking, triple-checking, etc.?  You get the point.  I believe the first measure is to get the job done fast.  The second measure to make sure the first measure can last.  If it doesn’t and only if it doesn’t, then  you measure again to make sure it will last.  You keep re-measuring until you get a match, then the measure with high probability will last and now you can move fast to cut the board once.  It is a lot better than starting over again, because you were going too fast.  In the long haul, a house built by measure twice until two agreed is built fast and to last. 

Next, notice that I say it starts from fast and moves to fastest.  I don’t believe that in life we begin from slow.  Even babies are commended for being fast, when they are.  They learn that fast trying to keep up with adults.  We recognize when they are getting fast.  We say, “Look at him (or her) go!” Today, we have the signal speed of electricity moving at trillions of kilometers per hour to power the internet and our cell phones.  The baby’s physical movements are no match for the signal speed of the human brain or the internet, but eventually that baby may become the physically fastest man (or woman) on earth! 

Next, I say variable comes before steady for a very obvious reason.  When I first was a competitive runner in grade school no one said anything about steady.  They didn’t have too.  I never ran far enough for that advice to really apply.  Even when I ran somewhere around 550 meters, I just ran as fast as I could to stay with the leader.  Later in Junior High, I set a record (that didn't last!) in the 200 meters.  It was not until high school, when I went up to the 400 meters, that I realized first that I had to vary my speed from the 200 meter race.  Then I also learned to vary my pace (very slightly) for the 4 parts of 400 meters.  Finally, when I move to the mile, then I learned the lesson of steady.  But steady doesn’t win a single race, if you are slow.  Aesop is wrong.  Someday, I am going to write not a fable called, “The Tortoise and the Hare”, but the true story called, “The Wolf, the Tortoise, and the Hare.  Well, it will be a fable that is in one sense true. You can imagine who wins!

Next, I want to applaud psychology.  The other day, I applauded psychology and a sincere Christian, who met me for the first time, wanted to introduce me to Jesus.  He didn’t know I could applaud both.  Let me applaud psychology for recognizing one unhealthy state – manic depression.  Most of society still doesn’t know what it is, because the diagrams for it are rarely introduced with the theory.  Psychology gets it right that manic-depression is unhealthy.  It shows that too fast is harmful outside the healthy lines.  Please pause for the applause.  Now, there is still one problem.  That is not the only unhealthy state.  It is though the only unhealthy state that colors outside the healthy lines.  So that unhealthy state is fairly obvious.  There is another state that is equally unhealthy.  I call it the too slow version of unhealthy – procrastination regret.  On the upper cycle it lives in the euphoria of its procrastination and in the lower cycle it lives in the despair of regret.  This too is unhealthy!  This set of unhealthy states can happen between the lines as can also too fast unhealthy states within the lines. Psychology needs to finish the job!

Finally, the major problem for psychology in the US at least is, as Japanese leaders in the business world have commented, that they are too negative.  They start with a name that essentially names what is unhealthy, but does not start with what is healthy.  They don’t talk about the four speeds we have in track that are healthy: rest, sprint, run, and walk.  What is the name for all the healthy states together?  In track, we call one combination Fartlek running with unappealing connotations.  So do we call the healthy states fast variable instead?  That is my first guess.  It may not be my very last, but I am sticking to as a start for discussing what is healthy and not just what is unhealthy.  My track coach made me a healthy runner.  He didn’t just teach when I was an unhealthy runner.  I pray that we can all learn to be healthy minders and not just healthy runners, etc. 

Everyone needs to last to a reasonable level and not just be fast.  We also have to be fast to a reasonable level and not just last.  Have a great day running your mind to health and not to stealth – a hidden objective of health.  I have revealed to you some part of what is healthy here.  It is a start.  I will add one last thing.  Smart athletes know that the first step to running fast is recharging your batteries with rest when needed.  That especially applies to your mind.  Take care. May you now have greater peace of mind. 

Be Healthy Everyone,

Jon

Communication Basics: The Tortoise and the Hare Story isn't True Even if Fictional

Listen to these phrases:

     let's rest for a second

     let's sprint for a minute

     let's run for an hour

     let's walk for today

Please note the combination of speed variations with the variety of time frames.  They vary accordingly.  So which is better resting or walking?  The question seems a little crazy doesn't it, because in context neither is better than the other.  But all four paces or speeds are necessary.  My point is that you need to be able to have different speeds to do well.  

What is missing in so many discussions of big topics like manic-depression is the basics.  We too often don't start there, but at the pinnacle of what we know and sufficiently complicate it so that no one knows what we are really saying.  So let's not begin first with the meaning of manic-depression. Let's start with some more basic questions than even those presented above.

Let's start out with a first question you could ask grade school children.  It is: 

Which is better fast or slow?

I can hear the children shouting out: Fast!  

Let's ask a second question, but this time of children who are older like junior highers.  It is:

Is it better to vary your speed or to always be at the same speed?  

I can hear the students shouting: Vary!

Finally, let's ask some high schools to put this altogether.  Which is better fast and steady, fast and variable, slow and steady, or slow and variable?  

I believe they would combine fast and variable together and regard that combination as the best.  The thing that I think is overlooked is what I learned in track.  It is the person who gets to the finish line first who wins, not the person who exceeded their body's speed limits for the full distance.  The body and the mind have limitations on them depending on the distance to be traveled.  It is about the destination first and the time allowed second.  It is about our matching pace third.  

A distance runner is a lot like a sprinter - both are going their fastest to get to a destination.  The difference is that they are able to run or sprint in a different gear than the other.  They establish a comfortable winning pace for their race.  Even sprinters vary how they run a 100 meter, 200 meter, and a 400 meter race.  They are not the same  in terms of which gear you use to run that respective race.  But all are at your fastest possible pace, if you desire to win.  

That is more easily seen in the case of distance runners - the pace is critical to winning the race - to getting to the finish line first.  The goal is not to be the fastest - then you would run the same speed as a sprinter and crash and burn - the goal is to be the first to the finish line.  So fast here is relative to the distance and the time allowed.  Fast varies.  

We don't allow a sprinter to run the 100 in 2 minutes.  We also don't expect the miler to run the mile in 2 minutes.  Yet both racers can win their respective races with faster paces and shorter times than others in their same race.  That is why I think the rule is fast and variable.   I agree with my high school track teammates.  

The story of the Tortoise and the Hare is very distorting of the honest truth.  The reality is that the hare would have won had he had a warning system to resume his run following his rest periods.  The other thing is that the race distance favored the tortoise.

The problem is that this story places in some minds the idea that slow and steady is favorable.  I don't think it is.  The goal in track is to run as fast as you can within your capacity.  It is not to go as slow as you can.  You are not running so as to win the race, when you run slow.  That does not mean it can't be a variance of fast that helps the most and is the healthiest.  

Manic depression comes from too fast BUT not from fast.  Likewise procrastination comes from too slow or not fast enough.  We must avoid both traps in order to measure up to what every high school student knows - all they have to do is walk to a friendly track meet.  I sure wish more people did!  We would have more people practicing fast and variable.  Run your pace to the race and rest, sprint, run, or walk your way to victory over manic-depression or procrastination-regret!

Sincerely,

Jon

Communication Basics: When Excess Means Too Much of a Good Thing

There are many good things that can be destroyed by excess.  An apple is a good thing, but a diet of only apples is not.  Protein is a good thing, but just hamburgers at McDonald's for one's entire diet is not!  You get the point.  Well, I want you to get to point about a set of excesses in the case of mental health and not just physical health.

My book on mental health, Mental Health for Everyone, deals a lot with excesses and how to beat the problem of excess. It deals with it through the principle of intervals.  One gets bigger, faster, stronger, and smarter little by little, moment by moment, step by step, and bit by bit.  The attainments that are every child's dream - to become bigger, faster, stronger, and smarter, don't occur overnight except in fairy tales but they can begin that night.  So my approach in this piece will be to get at the basics of defeating excesses!

Let's bulldoze them down together, shall we?   There are four major sets of excesses.  They are:

1) expert excess or amateur excess

2) manic depression excess or procrastination-sleep excess

3) easy street excess or difficulty street excess

4) know everything excess and know nothing excess

You probably have not heard of some of these under these names, but I would guess everyone has experienced these excesses whether it be at school, at work, at play, or at a religious gathering.

Let's deal with each one, one at a time, starting with the first one.  As I deal with each I will be more specific about each generalized grouping.


Expert excess I call "expertitis".  It has a close cousin, a fellow excess, called "amateuritis".  They both fail to lift a light weight more than previous lifts that is necessary to get bigger.  Excess expertise fastens too heavy a load on people's backs.  Excess amateurism fastens too light of a load on people's backs.  They both look foolish, yet day after day the king doesn't realize he's wearing no clothes!  We want people's minds to grow into a greater understanding - it is just that it has to happen little by light to remain light so that people reach a bigger understanding.  The excesses make understanding smaller.  We need to change this in terms of quantity and quality from both excesses.  

Manic-depression excess is what it sounds like.  It is both too high and too low.  It goes outside actual human limitations.  It has a close cousin, a fellow excess, called procrastination-slowness.  The latter pair is my own creation.  Isn't it ironic that on the internet I can plenty of articles on manic-depression and on bipolar that are sicknesses, but I could not find an article on what is its healthy opposite nor on its close cousin of excess?  I had to go to other sources than psychology for a serious concern about being a procrastinator or being too slow - a slow poke.  You find this in the business world primarily. This is interesting because the success of high technology has led us into a steady diet of fast and steady.  Also interesting is that a child's fairy tale has taken hold in psychological circles.  It is part of Aesop's fables and it is called, The Tortoise and the Hare.  This story's fabled moral is a steady diet of "slow and steady wins the race".  Not according to the internet and the rest of technology!  The excesses of both stories - Aesop's and the internet's - are woven into too much of our thinking.  We are people that should be fast and variable - able to rest, sprint, run, or walk depending on the distance and time.  We aren't doing this!  We need to break free in terms of placement and timing from both excesses.


Easy excess can be called easy street.  Difficult excess, its close cousin, can be called difficult street. When it comes to increments it should be easy, but this should not lead to an avoidance of difficulty.  Eventually in our jobs over time, we can handle more difficult processes than we could at first.  If we try to master everything in the beginning, it all becomes difficult and then some even quit.  In other cases, employees can be with a company for years and never master the harder parts of a job.  It should be that we are moving from easy to easy step by step, but not all in one step and not with the end goal that we cannot master hard things.  The greats make the difficult look easy.  Look at your greatest musical artists and at your best athletes - they make even the difficult look easy - so it is both and not excess!  We need to free ourselves from the popular approaches to methods and purposes where we too one day can make the difficult look easy.


The I know everything mentality and its close cousin, I know nothing mentality are both dangerous.  We have got people who run around claiming to know what they don't know.  I see this a lot with predictions of the future. Some things you can know about tomorrow given that certain conditions remain constant, but you don't know that they necessarily will.  There are people who claim to know the end of the earth.  I thought we we human beings who don't know everything?  Having said that though, we also like to play at knowing nothing.  Really?  You really don't know.  Some of this play borders on pathetic.  If we've had teachers, we ought to know some things as do others, we ought to know things others don't, we ought to not know things others do know, and there ought to be things neither person knows; but this last category is only one of four - not the whole deal.  We need to be learning new things in terms of things and kinds and not just be stuck with two old bad cousins.


It is time to close up this discussion.  The point in all of it is to be healthy by avoiding excess.  This article for example can only be so long.  We need to avoid the excesses of experts and amateurs and step up our understanding little by little.  We need to avoid the excesses of the Manic -Depression and the Procrastination-Slow and step up our inspiring moment by moment.  We need to avoid the excesses of Easy Street and Difficult Street (it might be also called Baker Street with the difficult hero, Sherlock Holmes, in room 212B).  We also need to avoid the excesses of know-it-all and know-it-not at all and develop the captivating bit by bit  If you avoid the communication of this article, then please be sure it is not because of one of these excesses.  Improve your ability to listen and then speak  - to communicate - through excess avoidance.  We need to change excesses, break from excesses, free ourselves from excesses, and discover some new things.    Remember too many apples is not a good thing for your diet.  Your mind has a healthy diet too!  Get mental health and then get happy!


Sincerely,

Jon

Communications Basics 101: A Communicators Job is Never Done on a Higher Level

While I have completed a book and then had it published too, it does not mean my communication is over.  In one sense it is, the fundamentals in it really are done.  What remains is more of each of those fundamentals - their development.  My book is titled, Mental Health for Everyone,

One of the chapters describing schooling is the key to making a major dent in the problem of manic-depression and the other extreme of putting people to sleep.  My sample or example in that chapter comes from the sport of track.

Since writing the book, I think the key point using track is solid, but I should have developed my approach in contrast two approaches.  There are essentially three approaches to the mind's handling of relationships.  They are:

fast and steady
fast and variable
slow and steady.

I should have used the story of what I will call my reformed school one mile race.  In high school, I ran a race against two runners from a reformed school.  One was fast and steady and the other was slow and steady.  I was the one who was fast and variable.

The fast and steady runner took off in the race like it was a 400 meter or 440 yard race.  He collapsed after a couple of laps.  I mean he literally collapsed onto the track.

His teammate on the other hand ran steadily slow until he realized it was the last lap.  Then he at the last moment took off in an effort to catch me.

Personally, I was lulled into running too slow myself by his approach to the race and by his activities leading up to the race.  I call it the zombie effect.  Until he took off after his procrastination in the race I had been running a too relaxed pace myself.  Fortunately, a teammate let me know I should get going since the guy was coming up on my fast.

I took off harder myself with 300 meters or 330 yards to go.  I in the end held him off since I had run fast, but variably based on my distance.

In this race, I knew I had to vary my pace from what I would do for 400 meters.  That way I did not collapse.  But I also knew to run fast still, since too slow of a pace could also lose the race.  That is what happened to the second runner.

In the United States we have young people especially who are trapped by a world that is only fast and steady and eventually collapses - too often in the form of suicide or some form of breakdown.  We also have many who procrastinate until the race is lost and it is too late to win the prize.

I could further the ideas in  my book by developing this story.  So I am doing it now.  This will likely go into a second edition, if I am fast enough to get that opportunity.

The good thing is that I finished my book - I did not collapse and not finish.  Likewise, I didn't drag it out until the last gasp and end up getting it out too late - I still have things left over to improve next time.  I didn't engage in fruitless procrastination.

My book titled, Mental Health for Everyone, is available through Amazon and through Barnes and Noble.  To get to my book simply type in my full name or the full title or both.  You will find it.

If you want a bit of a preview beyond that found at Amazon.com, then you can go to youtube and watch the following (you might have to copy and paste this to your browser):

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uC5XDFly3GA



Have fun!  Remember, it is fast and variable wins the race.  Go get 'em and let's win this race!



Sincerely,

Jon Westlund